We have thought about the concept of open adoption and what that represents to us many times over the our journey to adopt. While it can be difficult to put our thoughts on the subject into words, I hope that I can convey the deeper meaning behind what it is that is written here.
Sean and I have a happy and comfortable life. We have enjoyed great careers. We have made a lovely home for ourselves. Yet, even in the midst of great happiness and accomplishment, we have longed to share this life that we have built together with children.
While biology may have failed us in our attempts, we have always felt that our children are out there for us. We did not go through years riding the infertility roller coaster of poking, prodding, or invasive attempts to fight that fact. We have maintained the faith that our family will come to us in the time and the manner that is in God's plan. Choosing adoption has granted us a sense of peace. I believe that it is the answer for us.
When Sean and I began to discuss adoption, our thoughts turned to our future child's first family. We know that a birthfamily considers adoption not because they don't love their child enough, but because they love him or her so much that they want to give him or her a life that they don't feel like they can provide. We feel that that love is something that should be validated and celebrated throughout a child's entire life. While so many believe that adoption is about loss, we don't believe that our child has to lose one family in order to gain another.
Our dream is to have a healthy, honest, and loving relationship with our child's family. We want our child to know them, to know that they love him or her, and for our child to love in return. We don't feel threatened by it; we feel blessed by it. We want our children to know and experience as much love as possible, and to know that that's what life is about. What parent wouldn't want their child surrounded by love for their entire life?
We believe that open adoption offers that opportunity. We welcome you to be a part of our life, and us a part of yours. Be there for the celebrations, the triumphs, the achievements, successes - right along with us. A true team, built by love, cheering our child on, together.
We would welcome the opportunity to get to know you, now and for the long haul. Adoption doesn't end with a lawyer and a signature. It is a relationship that is enduring.
